Comments on: Online Dating Part 1: SBF Seeks SBM http://squarerootz.net/sbf-seeks-sbm/ Wed, 07 Jan 2009 03:43:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Rodrigue http://squarerootz.net/sbf-seeks-sbm/#comment-1627 Rodrigue Sat, 31 May 2008 23:54:23 +0000 http://squarerootz.net/?p=1134#comment-1627 Personally, i feel its kind of a waste of money. These sites normally require a nominal fee for their services, when u can meet people anywhere, just stepping out of the house. Sometimes, that's all it takes. And can sisters be just a bit more civil, if u approach a sister, and ur not what she's looking for: ie( tall, thin, full head of hair, brand name clothing, bling), she will dismiss u with one look. What's that about ladies, maybe if u didn't walk around with ur nose up in the air, and/or a mean mug, then somebody might actually say hi to u. Personally, i feel its kind of a waste of money. These sites normally require a nominal fee for their services, when u can meet people anywhere, just stepping out of the house. Sometimes, that’s all it takes. And can sisters be just a bit more civil, if u approach a sister, and ur not what she’s looking for: ie( tall, thin, full head of hair, brand name clothing, bling), she will dismiss u with one look. What’s that about ladies, maybe if u didn’t walk around with ur nose up in the air, and/or a mean mug, then somebody might actually say hi to u.

]]> By: Kat Noel http://squarerootz.net/sbf-seeks-sbm/#comment-1571 Kat Noel Wed, 21 May 2008 18:38:10 +0000 http://squarerootz.net/?p=1134#comment-1571 I hear from a lot of Black and Latino females that when it comes to online dating and events that cater to singles, the number of brothers who participate are usually very, very low. Brothers, what is that all about? I hear from a lot of Black and Latino females that when it comes to online dating and events that cater to singles, the number of brothers who participate are usually very, very low. Brothers, what is that all about?

]]> By: missdtm http://squarerootz.net/sbf-seeks-sbm/#comment-1570 missdtm Wed, 21 May 2008 18:20:04 +0000 http://squarerootz.net/?p=1134#comment-1570 recently, many of my friends have found themselves single and not really looking to find new boo's. being the "honorary single chick" that they have dubbed me, i have encouraged them to sign up for online dating on multiple occasions. they always tell me that they will do it when they are seriously "desperate" and right now is not that time. i commend you for signing yourself up and giving it a go! if i were single, SHOOT--i would do it in a heartbeat! the one suggestion i have given my friends that they have found appealing (and by appealing i mean that they just want to drink and try it out in a group) is speed dating. if you try it, please please please let me know what you try and how it was! even though i have a bf, i have been intrigued by this idea for a long time as well. lots of luck! recently, many of my friends have found themselves single and not really looking to find new boo’s. being the “honorary single chick” that they have dubbed me, i have encouraged them to sign up for online dating on multiple occasions. they always tell me that they will do it when they are seriously “desperate” and right now is not that time.

i commend you for signing yourself up and giving it a go! if i were single, SHOOT–i would do it in a heartbeat!

the one suggestion i have given my friends that they have found appealing (and by appealing i mean that they just want to drink and try it out in a group) is speed dating. if you try it, please please please let me know what you try and how it was! even though i have a bf, i have been intrigued by this idea for a long time as well.

lots of luck!

]]> By: Patrice http://squarerootz.net/sbf-seeks-sbm/#comment-1569 Patrice Wed, 21 May 2008 17:33:15 +0000 http://squarerootz.net/?p=1134#comment-1569 Jessica, Black Planet's still around??? I should have consulted you before signing up for Soul Singles...your observations are completely on point. But I'll save the rest of my observations for Part 2 of the series (but you'll get the inside dish this weekend Jess). Stay tuned! Jessica,
Black Planet’s still around???
I should have consulted you before signing up for Soul Singles…your observations are completely on point. But I’ll save the rest of my observations for Part 2 of the series (but you’ll get the inside dish this weekend Jess). Stay tuned!

]]> By: jessica http://squarerootz.net/sbf-seeks-sbm/#comment-1568 jessica Wed, 21 May 2008 17:15:42 +0000 http://squarerootz.net/?p=1134#comment-1568 Hmm, I've tried match.com and know 2 others who have also, and nothing good came out of any of our experiences. I've also tried soul singles, which I didn't like; the quality of men on that site was seriously lacking. Then there was good 'ol black planet, which was a joke, too. I'm kind of turned off now by meeting men online moreso than the "regular" way. I still have faith in the traditional method but would never discourage anyone from trying the internet route. This is a cool topic, and I'm eager to read how your journey comes along! Hmm, I’ve tried match.com and know 2 others who have also, and nothing good came out of any of our experiences.
I’ve also tried soul singles, which I didn’t like; the quality of men on that site was seriously lacking. Then there was good ‘ol black planet, which was a joke, too.
I’m kind of turned off now by meeting men online moreso than the “regular” way. I still have faith in the traditional method but would never discourage anyone from trying the internet route.
This is a cool topic, and I’m eager to read how your journey comes along!

]]> By: Jessica Jones http://squarerootz.net/sbf-seeks-sbm/#comment-1541 Jessica Jones Mon, 19 May 2008 11:40:25 +0000 http://squarerootz.net/?p=1134#comment-1541 Well said Keish! Especially the point on who is giving up on who. And I don't think there is anything wrong with online dating at all. It is 2008; everything we do is influenced by technology. I actually wrote an article about seniors dating online. Many of them found the love of their life through the internet! I say do whatever works for you. And if that is meeting someone online,then more power to ya. Well said Keish! Especially the point on who is giving up on who. And I don’t think there is anything wrong with online dating at all. It is 2008; everything we do is influenced by technology. I actually wrote an article about seniors dating online. Many of them found the love of their life through the internet!

I say do whatever works for you. And if that is meeting someone online,then more power to ya.

]]> By: Keish http://squarerootz.net/sbf-seeks-sbm/#comment-1519 Keish Thu, 15 May 2008 15:21:15 +0000 http://squarerootz.net/?p=1134#comment-1519 I'm all for the online dating! Hell, you meet someone where/how you can meet them. I don't think anything about dating/online dating can ever be "forced." Whether you're meeting your boo online or however, a connection either develops or it doesn't. And I would never say Black women have given up on Black men. Statistically, Black men are the MOST likely of any group to marry outside their race, Black women are the LEAST likely. So who's really giving up on who...??? I’m all for the online dating! Hell, you meet someone where/how you can meet them. I don’t think anything about dating/online dating can ever be “forced.” Whether you’re meeting your boo online or however, a connection either develops or it doesn’t.

And I would never say Black women have given up on Black men. Statistically, Black men are the MOST likely of any group to marry outside their race, Black women are the LEAST likely. So who’s really giving up on who…???

]]> By: Patrice http://squarerootz.net/sbf-seeks-sbm/#comment-1512 Patrice Wed, 14 May 2008 20:57:22 +0000 http://squarerootz.net/?p=1134#comment-1512 Interesting points "yawn." But I definitely don't see online dating as a forced action. Like you said, Black women should "be more open to meeting different types of Black men" and I'm simply utilizing an online method to find that beautiful chocolate man that I might not bump into in my everyday life. I do agree that it's easy for people to misrepresent themselves in an online profile, but someone can initially misrepresent themselves regardless of how you meet them! Eventually someone's true colors shine through and you see them for who they are. Real recognizes real. Yes, the stats are a a bit gloomy, but I would never give up on Black men (and I hope that's not the message you took away from reading the piece). I'm just interested in seeing where this "experiment" takes me and why not bring my Square Rootz folks along with me? Nothing to lose! Interesting points “yawn.” But I definitely don’t see online dating as a forced action. Like you said, Black women should “be more open to meeting different types of Black men” and I’m simply utilizing an online method to find that beautiful chocolate man that I might not bump into in my everyday life.

I do agree that it’s easy for people to misrepresent themselves in an online profile, but someone can initially misrepresent themselves regardless of how you meet them! Eventually someone’s true colors shine through and you see them for who they are. Real recognizes real.

Yes, the stats are a a bit gloomy, but I would never give up on Black men (and I hope that’s not the message you took away from reading the piece).

I’m just interested in seeing where this “experiment” takes me and why not bring my Square Rootz folks along with me? Nothing to lose!

]]> By: *yawn* http://squarerootz.net/sbf-seeks-sbm/#comment-1511 *yawn* Wed, 14 May 2008 20:27:53 +0000 http://squarerootz.net/?p=1134#comment-1511 See, in my experience, the problem is that too many Black women don't give black men enough of a chance. Many times Black women want the cool, trendy dudes, when their needs could be much better fulfilled by a so-called square guy, someone who has his shit together and doesn't try to run game just so he can hit it and quit it. Too many times I have seen Black women give up on Black men altogether and go for white boys because they have no patience to wait for the right person to come along. I mean, why force it with a dating web site, where people can misrepresent themselves without thinking twice about it? I found my dream girl by not looking for her, and each time I've had a good relationship with a woman it hasn't been forced at all. And I think we can all agree that resorting to online dating is a forced action; it isn't natural. For too long Black woman have blamed the lack of eligible Black men on incarceration, homosexuality and death, and while the statistics are indeed overwhelming, I feel it's a cop out also. It is my firm opinion that if Black women would let their guards down just a bit and be more open to meeting different types of Black men then their worries of not meeting the right guy would be vastly diminished. Just my opinion, though... See, in my experience, the problem is that too many Black women don’t give black men enough of a chance. Many times Black women want the cool, trendy dudes, when their needs could be much better fulfilled by a so-called square guy, someone who has his shit together and doesn’t try to run game just so he can hit it and quit it.

Too many times I have seen Black women give up on Black men altogether and go for white boys because they have no patience to wait for the right person to come along.

I mean, why force it with a dating web site, where people can misrepresent themselves without thinking twice about it? I found my dream girl by not looking for her, and each time I’ve had a good relationship with a woman it hasn’t been forced at all. And I think we can all agree that resorting to online dating is a forced action; it isn’t natural.

For too long Black woman have blamed the lack of eligible Black men on incarceration, homosexuality and death, and while the statistics are indeed overwhelming, I feel it’s a cop out also.

It is my firm opinion that if Black women would let their guards down just a bit and be more open to meeting different types of Black men then their worries of not meeting the right guy would be vastly diminished. Just my opinion, though…

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